women and children first

I typed what's below on another thread (General Titanica >> Titanic Interest -- For Women Only) i/{The Titanic disaster increased the temperature of the woman's sufferage debates. I recently read Walter Lord's "The Good Years". He mentioned a woman's sufferage parade held the month after the...

I thought I read somewhere that Lightoller and Murdoch somehow ended up with different policies. One said W&C first, the other said W&C ONLY. In fact, in the 1997 movie, you hear Lightoller offscreen say the latter. Where can I find a discussion or documentation of this discrepancy, and did...