Randy Bryan Bigham
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I read Lee Kendall’s article with great interest, and while I appreciated the focus on Matania’s published work of the British Inquiry, I was struck by some errors of fact regarding Sir Cosmo and Lady Duff Gordon. Also, I didn’t care for the expression of personal opinion, passed off as fact, within what is essentially an historical review. Objectivity and balance ought to be maintained when presenting historical analyses of controversial events and persons. In this article, Kendall presents the unproven allegations against the Duff Gordons not as allegations at all but as accepted fact.
But first, I want to point out a factual error in the statement that No. 1 lifeboat was the first launched. It wasn’t, of course. It was either the fifth or sixth lowered, depending on one’s view of the evidence of the evacuation timeline.
Now, to the Duff Gordons. The author refers to Sir Cosmo’s offering of five pounds apiece to Boat 1’s sailors as a "mercenary incentive to persuade them (the crew) not to row back for survivors." This is an opinion, not proven fact. If Kendall’s article was an editorial, I wouldn’t object to it, but in a review of this kind that statement should be qualified as an "alleged incentive" to be absolutely fair. There was, and still is, no proof that Cosmo bribed the seamen in Boat 1. Some people like to imagine the worst of Cosmo but the allegation of bribery, one mustn’t forget, also undermines the characters of the men accepting the supposed bribe. And I have a hard time believing all 7 crewmen were of a low sort.
The writer’s term "seedy dealings," attributed to Cosmo Duff Gordons actions, is also an unfair interpretation, as —— again —— it’s not grounded in any proven facts but in gossip.
Elsewhere in Kendall’s narrative Cosmo is described as "effete," and I take exception to that. He may have been a gentleman of leisure but he was also a productive member of his community, namely the village of Maryculter, where his family seat was located. He was a sheriff and magistrate at various times, and much involved in local charities. Cosmo was a great family man, with a jovial spirit, and not at all a grandiose "society" type. He was actually just a conventional country squire, preferring hunting and fishing up on his land in Scotland to making the rounds of fashionable London parties.
Lee Kendall asks: "For instance, why did he not, at any time, suggest going back himself?"
Probably for the same reason that almost every other person seated safely in lifeboats didn’t suggest going back. He was afraid. Plain and simple. My question is why do people continue to think —— in an age no longer informed by noblesse oblige —— that Sir Cosmo had more of a moral obligation to organize a rescue effort than people in the other boats? Why are the Duff Gordons still being singled out for their failure to rescue swimmers when no other passengers are held individually accountable for their own failure to do so?
Kendall: "Why did he take it upon his shoulders to offer money to the men in his lifeboat out of bald compassion when he clearly did not feel the slightest ounce of that sentiment toward those other men, women and children struggling for survival?"
Again, the author is making assumptions based on a prejudicial view of Cosmo Duff Gordon’s personality. Private papers and letters (one of which, written by his wife, I have shared on this message board) bear out his intense sadness at the tragic loss of life he witnessed. To make the statement that he was uncaring in the face of such despair is not only unfair, it’s shamefully so.
Regarding the money —— in my opinion it was offered out of Cosmo’s sense of charity, but also as a way of keeping the peace. The sailors (at least 2 of them) had just admonished his wife for absent-mindedly commenting to her secretary about the loss of the latter’s nightgown. But then the men started in bickering about their own lost wages and possessions, until Cosmo finally told them, "Yes, that’s hard luck, but I’ll give you a fiver." It really was that simple. It was the press that made it into something sinister; once they got hold of the story they ran with it, twisting it up and giving their spin to it.
Kendall: "How was it possible for him not to know the name of the person he allegedly spoke to in the boat, when he remembered Hendrickson’s name so well afterwards?"
Cosmo knew the man’s name on Carpathia because by that time he’d talked to him further and learned his name.
This statement is also flawed: "The dramatic withdrawal of the Duff-Gordon’s (sic) from polite social circles soon after the Inquiry’s end, or at least, polite society’s withdrawal from them, could not have been without the influence of Sir Rufus’ pointed badgering."
I certainly agree about Isaac’s badgering, but the Duff Gordons didn’t withdraw, dramatically or otherwise, from "polite society." Cosmo’s reputation was very much injured, that’s true, but he did not become a pitiful recluse. His family and close friends, among whom were some quite important figures, remained entirely loyal. Cosmo’s heart was broken by the scandal, and that’s why he led a less public life post-1912, not because he was no longer welcomed in "society." The outpouring of support from members of the aristocracy during the days of the Duff Gordons’ appearance at the hearings is good evidence of the esteem in which the couple was held by their peers.
As far as Lady Duff Gordon’s reputation, all evidence shows her personal life and career were largely unaffected by the controversy of her role in the aftermath of the disaster. The tabloids inflicted some bumps and scrapes at first, but she overcame that, and the press ultimately championed her. For the rest of her life, Titanic was pretty much a non-issue for the public. Even her obits (or most of them) mention it only as a footnote. Posthumously, it’s a different story.
But first, I want to point out a factual error in the statement that No. 1 lifeboat was the first launched. It wasn’t, of course. It was either the fifth or sixth lowered, depending on one’s view of the evidence of the evacuation timeline.
Now, to the Duff Gordons. The author refers to Sir Cosmo’s offering of five pounds apiece to Boat 1’s sailors as a "mercenary incentive to persuade them (the crew) not to row back for survivors." This is an opinion, not proven fact. If Kendall’s article was an editorial, I wouldn’t object to it, but in a review of this kind that statement should be qualified as an "alleged incentive" to be absolutely fair. There was, and still is, no proof that Cosmo bribed the seamen in Boat 1. Some people like to imagine the worst of Cosmo but the allegation of bribery, one mustn’t forget, also undermines the characters of the men accepting the supposed bribe. And I have a hard time believing all 7 crewmen were of a low sort.
The writer’s term "seedy dealings," attributed to Cosmo Duff Gordons actions, is also an unfair interpretation, as —— again —— it’s not grounded in any proven facts but in gossip.
Elsewhere in Kendall’s narrative Cosmo is described as "effete," and I take exception to that. He may have been a gentleman of leisure but he was also a productive member of his community, namely the village of Maryculter, where his family seat was located. He was a sheriff and magistrate at various times, and much involved in local charities. Cosmo was a great family man, with a jovial spirit, and not at all a grandiose "society" type. He was actually just a conventional country squire, preferring hunting and fishing up on his land in Scotland to making the rounds of fashionable London parties.
Lee Kendall asks: "For instance, why did he not, at any time, suggest going back himself?"
Probably for the same reason that almost every other person seated safely in lifeboats didn’t suggest going back. He was afraid. Plain and simple. My question is why do people continue to think —— in an age no longer informed by noblesse oblige —— that Sir Cosmo had more of a moral obligation to organize a rescue effort than people in the other boats? Why are the Duff Gordons still being singled out for their failure to rescue swimmers when no other passengers are held individually accountable for their own failure to do so?
Kendall: "Why did he take it upon his shoulders to offer money to the men in his lifeboat out of bald compassion when he clearly did not feel the slightest ounce of that sentiment toward those other men, women and children struggling for survival?"
Again, the author is making assumptions based on a prejudicial view of Cosmo Duff Gordon’s personality. Private papers and letters (one of which, written by his wife, I have shared on this message board) bear out his intense sadness at the tragic loss of life he witnessed. To make the statement that he was uncaring in the face of such despair is not only unfair, it’s shamefully so.
Regarding the money —— in my opinion it was offered out of Cosmo’s sense of charity, but also as a way of keeping the peace. The sailors (at least 2 of them) had just admonished his wife for absent-mindedly commenting to her secretary about the loss of the latter’s nightgown. But then the men started in bickering about their own lost wages and possessions, until Cosmo finally told them, "Yes, that’s hard luck, but I’ll give you a fiver." It really was that simple. It was the press that made it into something sinister; once they got hold of the story they ran with it, twisting it up and giving their spin to it.
Kendall: "How was it possible for him not to know the name of the person he allegedly spoke to in the boat, when he remembered Hendrickson’s name so well afterwards?"
Cosmo knew the man’s name on Carpathia because by that time he’d talked to him further and learned his name.
This statement is also flawed: "The dramatic withdrawal of the Duff-Gordon’s (sic) from polite social circles soon after the Inquiry’s end, or at least, polite society’s withdrawal from them, could not have been without the influence of Sir Rufus’ pointed badgering."
I certainly agree about Isaac’s badgering, but the Duff Gordons didn’t withdraw, dramatically or otherwise, from "polite society." Cosmo’s reputation was very much injured, that’s true, but he did not become a pitiful recluse. His family and close friends, among whom were some quite important figures, remained entirely loyal. Cosmo’s heart was broken by the scandal, and that’s why he led a less public life post-1912, not because he was no longer welcomed in "society." The outpouring of support from members of the aristocracy during the days of the Duff Gordons’ appearance at the hearings is good evidence of the esteem in which the couple was held by their peers.
As far as Lady Duff Gordon’s reputation, all evidence shows her personal life and career were largely unaffected by the controversy of her role in the aftermath of the disaster. The tabloids inflicted some bumps and scrapes at first, but she overcame that, and the press ultimately championed her. For the rest of her life, Titanic was pretty much a non-issue for the public. Even her obits (or most of them) mention it only as a footnote. Posthumously, it’s a different story.