I do believe the officers where highly reasonable men and only did what there captain has ask for.
One has to be "reasonable" to become a Senior Officer on the largest ship of a World-known line like White Star. That highly reasonable officer would have then understood and interpreted the Captain's orders and carried them out accordingly. I am sure that's what they did, even tough there was a difference in which the orders were interpreted on the two sides.
As I said, we will never know what
exactly Captain Smith ordered Wilde and Murdoch to do regarding lifeboats, but whatever it was, we can be certain that the two most senior Officers - both Chief Officers with Murdoch only temporarily "demoted" to First - were included. I am sure Lightoller was too, but then only he of the four survived and so we have only his own testimony to go by.
Afraid it down to the captain responsibility. If just been another crossing like the last 150 or so. I am quite sure there would of never been a serious problem. But I have to question was he just passed his best and too old for the job in coping with such an emergency situation on hand.
There is no evidence at all that Captain Smith had any health issues or was too old for the job. Yes, IMO he could have shown more awareness and taken more precautions earlier that Sunday as the ice warnings started to come in and he knew that the
Titanic was headed towards the ice field. But that shows a degree of complacence but not inability to make decisions. That has been discussed in detail in the "Negligent Captain" thread and is out of place here.
I don't believe that Captain Smith told his Officers to launch lifeboats half-empty or not to allow men even if there was room and no women or children to fill that space. It was the concerned Officers' own interpretation; some of us feel that Murdoch did the right thing in allowing men when there was room while Lightoller was unreasonable in not doing so.
But boat No1 with only 12 in is just unacceptable
I think the possible reasons for that have been discussed in previous threads. No point in repeating.