I was consulting my notes and comparing the information therein with Collins' testimony at the American Inquiry. Slightly contrary to what the Children of the Titanic article says, Collins arrived at Lifeboat #16 while it was still being loaded with Moody and Wilde in charge. He helped with the latter part of the loading and hoped to be allowed to go in it himself but it was Wilde (a few years later, while a WW1 POW in Germany Collins told Woods, a fellow prisoner, that it was the 'Senior officer, the one next to the Captain') who stopped him since there was already more than enough crew men on board.
Collins did not seem to know the identity of the steward who was holding one of Alma Palsson's children, just like Collins was. While it is difficult to be certain, it did not sound like the 'old hand' steward that he had befriended during the voyage and who told Collins that his allocated Lifeboat was #16 (See Titanic Inquiry Project). In those final minutes, Collins, the other steward, Wennerstrom, Alma Palsson and the 4 children were caught by the wave caused by the sudden lurch. Only Wennerstrom and Collins survived from that little group; Alma Palsson, her 4 children and the other unnamed steward were lost.