It's ok, hey I wasn't born yet, so I can't feel anything.
Yeah, I had that in my mind. About moving. I know after losing so many of her loved ones, Selma wanted to be with her sister Elin even more, because a mother bringing up alone 2 children in still a "strange" country can be hard,not like I know, just speculating. (Used your word.) So yes, Selma did hold her two remaining children together, and was indeed very overprotective dealing with them. Any parent would do the same, it's just pure and simple human nature. I reason, as to why Lillian and Edvin never married is because of guilt. Ok, three of their siblings were lost in that terrible tragedy-which Lily still recalls and remembered so vividly and there goes that surivals' guilt, like I should have died too. In many aspects, Selma's overprotectiveness parallels to Juliette Laroche's. Juliette didn't even let her two daughters-Simonne(aged 3 when Titanic went down) and little Louise(so cute, aged 1) marry. She cut more slack for Joseph Jr. Thus, in my opinion, it is these two women, whom the Titanic tragedy hit the most, plus my favorite Lillian.