Dear Laura, there have been many rumours about men dressing as women to get into the lifeboats. One must remember, however, that men were permitted to enter the starboard boats (except for boat C perhaps), often without further ado, so there was no point for them to dress up as women, or wearing a shawl or whatever. One third class passenger, Daniel Buckley, said he wore a shawl to get away, indicating his presence in a port boat or C. Also, another Irishman, Edward Ryan, allegedly got away this way, very likely in a port boat if his story is to be believed. No first class male escaped dress up as a woman at any rate.
Peter