Sadly, I lost my wife of 60 years recently. You are spot- on with your assessement of the modern male. However, keep in mind that it takes 2 to tango. Many a young sailor received a "Dear John" letter... myself included. I will ot go into my assessement of the modern male...I have 5 of them in my Clan.
As for the modern sea-person( I must remember I'm living in the bright , new pc world)? I heard recently that poor sailors have been ship-bound for up to 4 month due to Covid and have only had their mobiles to keep in touch with freinds and loved ones...poor wee souls!
Back in my day and in the days of Titanic...90% of sailors signed 2 Year Articles and that meant they could not get home unless th ship docked in the UK or Continent. Apprentices worked 12 hours a day, 24/7 and did not receive overtime payment..
As a matter of intere st, my first wage was £75 per year when the average was about £480 per year.
Sorry to hear about your loss. How did you meet her?
Work hard, get good job, get good money, then get the woman. This is why I believe the officers married much later in life.