Richard,
I offer up this except from Senan the Wise's "The Irish Aboard Titanic."
"Equally, it was unquestioningly assumed that the lifeboats were for passengers, and that the crew had no entitlement to them other than to serve as as basic lifeboat crews. Indeed, crew in some lifeboats were resented, particularly by first-class ladies who had left husbands behind. Somehow the crew were not playing the game by swimming to lifeboats or shinning down ropes - and this distaste manifested itself in criticism or crew members for smoking, for alleged but unlikely drunkenness, and for coarse talk and incompetence.
"If some members of the crew in a few instances looked after themselves and their own, few today would blame them. They did it when they could and when officer backs were turned. One account mentions the strange expression on steward's faces as passengers were helped into boats, an intimation of sicklied envy, knowing what was in store for themselves, but still following orders." (Page 13)
Molony, Senan. "The Irish Aboard Titanic." Dublin: Wolfhound Press, 2000.
Can you really blame them? They were only human.
Josh.